Summary of Week 13

Tess’s 13th week of life was from Thursday Oct 23rd through Wednesday October 29th. She was 12 weeks old during this week. 

Nursing: Bottle was a BIG issue on our beach trip. She simply refused. We realized she’d drink just enough to be satisfied (like 2 oz) and then quit. It was very, very difficult and frustrating for me. But it also forced me to figure out how to nurse her in situations where I typically wouldn’t. I nursed her on the beach and in the car this week with ease! I am not anti-nursing in public…it’s just not something I’m personally comfortable doing so for me to do these things was a big deal! 

I am SO THANKFUL for my blog! I’m always glad to hear when it helps others…but I’m especially excited when it’s helpful for me and this week it really was. With the bottle issues I went back and realized that BOTH Kye and Britt struggled with the bottle at this age! I think it must be a common thing? Of course they didn’t straight up reject it like she did but they did struggle. It gave me hope that it’s a situation that will improve!

I tried to give Tess a bottle while at home alone when kids were at school and she did the same thing where she just completely refused it. I ended up putting her down and waiting a few minutes then nursed her because I couldn’t handle her being so upset and didn’t want to battle with it. Mrs. Charlotte was so sweet and went to the store and bought us a ton of bottles to try! I’ve heard that a different bottle can make a big difference so I was ready to try anything and everything we could!

She had a couple times this week where she was fussy at the breast. Sometimes in the evenings for her 8:00 feeding we could NOT get her to calm down and eat. She was crying so SO hard that both Zach and I got concerned about it! It’s not like her to reject nursing and it did worry me but I think it was due to her having a lot of sleep issues and just being overly tired?

Nursing got a lot quicker this week. Often she’ll only take 15-20 min for her whole feeding. I also stopped using the Milkies this week while nursing as I wasn’t getting as much in them anymore and it was just a pain to pour them into the bottles and clean them and store it all and everything!

Schedule: This week Tess’s schedule stayed the same. She nursed at 7, 10:30, 2, 5, 8 and 10:30

A big goal for this week was to start extending her awake time lengths. Her naps were junky (much more on a that in a second) so I first tried making awake time shorter. When that didn’t work, I decided to extend awake time. Why not just keep her awake which makes the naps shorter? I extended awake time length to one hour and 15 minutes during this week and it worked out well for her!

Sleep: Ugh. Prior to Hawaii she was a pretty great sleeper. After Hawaii? Whole new ball game. We entered the third wonder week and I’m sure that had a lot to do with it. I also think Tess started having 4 month old sleep regression issues early. 

Tess did NOT sleep well on our beach trip. We quickly realized the bassinet we were using for her was just too small. She was touching the sides of it and it would cause her to wake. We also were trying out the woombie swaddle and soon regretted that. Her ability to move her arms caused issues for her as well. And we were also dealing with trying to get her back able to self soothe after being held too long while we were in Hawaii. Part of our prepare for sleep ritual involved holding her for a few minutes prior to putting her in the crib for sleep. While we were gone she was held too long and not put down sleepy but awake and this resulted in her not being able to self soothe anymore to get herself to sleep at the starts of naps.

So we had a good bit of issues we were dealing with!!! Tess started having both nap issues as well as middle of the night wakings. With naps she woke 45 minutes into each nap. On the dot! She truly had the “45 minute intruder” and it was like clockwork. Nights were not at a set time but were very random and all over the place. Some nights she’d wake at 3 am, some at 5 am, some not at all. There was no real pattern to it which makes it much more difficult to trouble shoot!

While we were at the beach we knew there wasn’t much we could do with the sleep issues. We held her to sleep a LOT to just be able to get through the trip and then I knew once we got home I’d be looking at a good while of hardcore sleep training!

Once home my first change was to stop holding her at all prior to sleep times. We swaddle, sing, turn off the lights, turn on the fan, and then just kiss her and lay her down full awake. This worked well and she would fall asleep very quickly at the start of naps. Having her fall asleep at the start of sleep time has never been a big issue for Tess! 

However, that 45 min intruder was (IS!) a BEAST! I took pages and pages of notes. I wrote down every little detail of every nap. I’m not going to bore you all with those details. Basically she woke every single nap exactly at the 45 min marker. And nothing I did from then on would help her get back to sleep. I tried doing cry it out for 15-20 min and then I’d go in and hold her to calm her down and then put her back down and let her cry again. Basically with that approach all that happened was she ended up only getting a 45 min nap and spent the rest of the nap crying!

I did switch back to the Miracle Blanket swaddle and it helped some. I think her hands were bothering her in the Woombie but yet she could still kick her feed out of the Miracle Blanket which wasn’t good either so I ended up creating my own combo swaddle using them both. The Woombie to keep her legs in and the Miracle Blanket to keep her arms in! 

I’ve never been a big fan of the swing. Kye was a paci baby and I used that when he struggled with sleep. Britt responded super well to cry it out and would only fuss for a few minutes before going back to sleep on her own. With Tess I decided to start trying the swing. She would just CRY and CRY and wouldn’t stop so cry it out wasn’t working! I started to leave her swaddled and move her to the swing to finish naps (she’d wake at 45 min then I’d let her fuss for 15-20 min to give her the chance to fall back to sleep on her own, then I’d move her to swing if she didn’t fall back to sleep during that time). Once she fell back to sleep I’d turn off the swing but just leave her there to finish the nap. It wasn’t an ideal solution but my hope was, with time, she’d stop waking at 45 min and, therefore, stop needing the swing at all. 

too small bassinet!

Swing for end of nap


in the car seat works AMAZING! she slept awesome during our driving times on the trip!

More About Tess:

  • Tess did AWESOME at the beach! She wasn’t bothered by the sand or the water and even took two pretty great naps while out there πŸ™‚
  • Tess has a very content personality. She is much, much more “go with the flow” than Britt was as a baby. The beach was evidence of this! She didn’t fuss at all and even was late to eat and was just super chill about it all πŸ™‚ 
  • This wonder week was one where I could REALLY see the change in her. She started moving her hands with purpose and has much more control over them. She started putting them to my mouth a lot for me to kiss them πŸ™‚
  • She also is just much more interested in the world around here. She smiles and talks a lot and makes many different sounds
  • My favorite thing about Tess (which I’ve said before and will probably continue to say in future posts!) is her HANDS! Girl has the sweetest hands and I hold them constantly
  • She sticks her tongue out a LOT and it’s super adorable!
  • Tess’s hair is getting much lighter
  • When she is laying down she tries to sit herself up
  • She is a very smiley baby and smiles all. the. time πŸ™‚
  • One of my favorite times of the day is in the afternoon. I feed Tess and Kye gets up from his nap and Britt is still asleep. It’s so cute to watch Kye with her and it makes me so thankful that we did half day school this year! Britt just isn’t old enough yet to really be very interested in Tess so it’s more fun to watch Kye with her at this point!
  • I dug out my sling and started wearing Tess a little. I’ve never been big into baby wearing. I’m pretty petite (5’1″) and the slings and all are just SO HEAVY! I can wear her for 10 min or so before it gets to be annoying for me. Usually if I wear her it’s during the morning rush of getting the kids out the door for school!
  • When I had Kye I did a really great job of making sure he had plenty of play time on his own. Independent playtime, time in the bouncer, etc. When I had Britt I held her a lot more and cuddled her a lot more because I knew how quickly the sweet baby stage would last. I’m trying to do a better balance with Tess. I have to stop myself from just holding her constantly! I don’t want her to be as clingy as Britt is and I know a lot of Britt’s “Mommy obsession” is due to me not being as hardcore with her independent time as a baby!
  • Overall Tess is probably the happiest baby we’ve had yet. She smiles all the time and has a very calm demeanor. However, she’s also the most difficult baby we’ve had. Kye wasn’t a good sleeper and he was a paci baby so I had to go in and out of his room constantly (so annoying!). Britt was an awesome sleeper! And Tess is a not-so-great sleeper like Kye but since she doesn’t have the paci it’s trickier to figure out what exactly to do to help her get through this rough sleep patch!

Bald spot πŸ™

Typical tummy time routine!

Daddy took her upstairs to play in the play room

talking to her toys

Crazy hair…and happy baby!

Loves sticking that tongue out!

Postpartum Update: The bottle situation combined with her sleep issues really, really made it a tough week for me. I spend ALL my time being a mom and I work SO hard at it and it was frustrating to be trying so hard and not seeing fruits of that labor. I’m so thankful I’m behind in my blogging as I probably wouldn’t have been writing this in a very positive way at the time I was actually living it. I had a GREAT time at the beach but was just frustrated with the bottle/sleep combo of issues! 

Sibling Comparisons: You can read about Kye’s 13th week here! Bless him with that hair! ALL three of my kids have had the same bald spot in the back. It’s so pitiful! I really see a lot of similarities in the way Tess and Kye look. I think she looks more like him than she does Britt at this age!

You can see Britt’s week 13 summary here. It’s crazy to me to see how much hair Britt had and then realize that Tess has even more. Our kids just keep getting hairier! 

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Summary of Week 13

Here’s an update on what’s new during Kye’s 13th week of life (making him 13 weeks old today!) Not much new, but some cute pics!

I took this after nursing him in Brunswick…see how FAT he looks right after eating? Fat and Happy!

I knew Kye’s been losing hair but I didn’t really realize how much! I was using my new camera (expect WAY more pics thanks to that thing! I’m loving it) and I noticed in his crib that his sheet is COVERED in his hair! Gross!

Poor Patches haha! He’s not just bald in the front, like you can see in all his pics, but he’s also lost a lot in he back. I know it’s normal and I know it’ll grow back so I’m not stressing!

Doesn’t every mom think their child is sooo precious when sleeping?

Bottle Issues

He’s been having some bottle eating issues this week which worried me. He would NOT take a full bottle while we were in Brunswick and would sometimes take an HOUR to finish it! So annoying! I started thinking of reasons why and realized the first time he used his new “big boy” bottles the new nipples to go with them were too fast of a flow so I switched them with his regular slow nipples. Well now when he nurses he finishes SUPER quick! Like 20 min total! So maybe he needed the faster flow nipple? I was right (as usual haha) and here he is trying it out! He still acted like he didn’t want the last ounce or so but Zach played with him for about 10 min and then he wanted to finish it!

Hands Down”

Another thing with his bottles have been his hands. He’s all into them now and will push them in front of his face which makes bottle feeding difficult. I’ve been reading Babywise II about when he goes in his high chair and how to start teaching him manners. It talks about not allowing children to play with their food (I totally agree with) and to teach them to keep their hands in their laps unless they are using their hands to eat. So we thought we’d go ahead and start kinda using the termnology we plan to use then. We decided “hands down” would mean for Kye to put his hands in his lap. So when he gets his hands in the way of the bottle we say “hands down” and put them down then will hold them down if we can! Not that he’s picking up on it or anything but “they” say the more you do those type things the quicker they will learn them!

Morning Walks

Well, we’ve only done it once but I LOVE it! I get up every morning at 7:00. No questions. It doesn’t matter what’s happening during the day Kye eats at 7:00 and starts his day then so I do as well! Often Zach will go back to sleep at 7:00 and stay in bed until he needs to for work or until 8ish. I know it shouldn’t matter but it often annoys the crap out of me!!! Again, something I need to work on!

We’ve wanted to start taking family walks for awhile now. We have a super pretty neighborhood and know the benefits of Kye getting outside often but it’s SO hot during the day and by the time Zach is home from working we have to eat dinner, do things around the house, and get Kye to bed. We really don’t have the time. Zach thought of a great idea and we went after Kye’s 7:00 feeding (so at like 7:30) it was PERFECT! Not hot, not too bright, and a GREAT way to start the day! I hope we keep it up πŸ™‚ I love little family traditions!

First time using the stroller! I know I’m super retarded…every time I’ve put him in the stroller I’ve put him in the carseat first then snapped it in! DUH he could just get snapped in the stroller! It only took me 3 months to figure that out haha

He looks like he’s saying “come on guys let’s go!”

This Age

I’ve always said that I wish I could give birth to a two year old and skip the baby stage. I know most people say they LOVE this age and I always thought it’d be BORING. Well, I admit it! I was wrong! This week I realized I LOVE the age Kye is in right now! Before he was kinda (no offense son) boring but now he’s so much more fun! He’s eating quicker which means he gets to play longer and I love all our moments together. I do already have that feeling in my chest where I don’t want him to grow up! AND I get why people hurry up and have kids sooner b/c they miss the sweetness of this age…Kye doesn’t know how NOT to be sweet! I love it!

More Hair?

Even though it appears that Kye’s losing more hair by the minute it already looks like some new is growing in! Doesn’t it look like that here? I wonder what color it will be? Zach and I were both blonde kids (which I hear is called tow headed? what a strange name for it! I don’t get it!) so we kinda assume that’s what he’ll be but we’ll have to wait to find out πŸ˜‰

Oh and btw…he’s rolled over once this week…not a record but at least we know he didn’t forget how!

Lots of Noise

He’s “talking” more and more and more. He’s LOVING to use his mouth and especially that tongue! He has figured out how to blow air and loves blowing “rasberries” and making bubbles in general πŸ™‚

When he talks he makes the FUNNIEST faces! I love them!


It’s official, we have a drooler! It’s gross but unavoidable and it mixes with his puke so it makes the puke look runny and less white. SO nasty! When do they grow out of that?


I know Sadie and Levi’s nails grow pretty fast but DANG! I literally have to trim and file Candler Kye’s nails once a week!!!! They get long and sharp very quickly, but at least he doesn’t mind me doing it!


I lost 1 1/2 pounds this week! Yay me! I consider that a pretty big win seeing as we’ve been traveling and the Hiott’s had SO much GOOD food at their house! We’re traveling AGAIN this weekend so we’ll so how I do but I’m pretty proud of myself for sticking so strongly to this diet and I think it really will be a lifetime change for both Zach and I!

Emily Parker

Hey Y’all, I’m Emily! I’m a stay at home mom and consider parenting to be my passion. Disney is my happiest place and I love making memories as a family together. I’m a big believer in transparency and share all of my real-life moments as a mother of four.

My work has been featured on Love What Matters, Today Parenting and Babywise.Life. I’m also honored to be a member of the Babywise Friendly Blog Network.

You can read more about our family on my About Me page. Also be sure to follow along with me on Instagram, FacebookΒ and Pinterest!

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