Today is Babywise Friendly Blog Network Day! You can find my post about times when bribery works as a parenting tool (whhhhat?!? Yup, I said it!) over at Valerie’s blog: Chronicles of a Babywise Mom. It also worked out where Valerie is guest posting on my blog today! When we discussed topic ideas I totally asked her to do something newborn related. Not only did Casey JUST have her baby…but my baby is coming soon and I could for sure use some refreshers!
Being a new mom is quite overwhelming. Trying to implement Babywise while also trying to figure out how to be a mother presents the parent with a myriad of newness that can lead to the mother to fail to recognize key principles to abide until months have gone by. I know I did it! We can get bogged down in rules and fail to recognize the “why” behind what the rules are. We can miss simple steps that can make life easier for us and our child. In an effort to help new moms avoid missing some key principles, I have created this list of important things for you to know now.
1-Know the Big Picture
Know what it is you are working toward. What are your goals? What are the goals of Babywise? What can you expect over time? Knowing these things helps you to be willing to be consistent and also allows you to have the courage it can take to be flexible. It helps you through the monotony of it all and can bolster you through the hard times. Part of why a second, third, etc. child can be easier is that moms know that the efforts are worth it, that they pay off, and that stages don’t last forever. For your first child, you have to live on faith that those things are all true.
Knowing the big picture also helps you to step back and say, “Hey, my baby is supposed to be doing xyz now and is not. What could be the cause?” It can help you to catch problems before they are huge. This is as true of sleeping and eating milestones as it is of gross motor and speech milestones. Early intervention is a powerful thing.
I have some posts to help you in knowing the big picture. They are:
2-Know the Sleep Hierarchy
The sleep hierarchy is something I created in an effort to help prevent parents from driving themselves to the point of insanity during those early months. There are always so many questions of, “Can I pick the baby up if she won’t fall asleep? Will it ruin her? Will it ruin all of our effort so far?” Know this hierarchy. Recognize the consistency it encourages as well as the flexibility it allows.
3-Know How to Calculate and Evaluate Waketime Length
Understanding waketime length is one of the most powerful tools you can give yourself as a parent. Know what the baseline is for about how long a baby your child’s age should be awake. Know the cues to watch for to know when baby is tired. Know the signs for overstimulation–avoid this from happening. Also, know how to keep your baby awake. It can be hard to keep most newborns awake! Understand that waketime length is important enough that it leads to the sleep hierarchy. An overly tired baby will not sleep well and will not eat well and will lead you down a frustrating spiral of no success.
Also know that you are human, you are doing this for the first time, and you will make some mistakes as you figure this out. I made mistakes the fourth time around and believe me, I know this stuff inside and out. You don’t write about it, answer questions about it, and apply it for 7 years and not be able to explain it while half asleep. I still made mistakes. You will, too. Guess what? It will be okay. Babies are quite resilient. Give yourself grace, learn from the mistake, and move forward.
4-Know How You Want to Sleep Train
A principle of Babywise is that baby will fall asleep without sleep props. The path you take to get to that goal is not important, however. There are many ways to reach this goal. Know what you are comfortable with and what you will be willing to see through to the end. Follow that path.
- Sleep Training: The Four S’s
- CIO Bootcamp: Revised and Updated
- Sleep Training According To Babywise
- Using Babywise Without Doing CIO
5-Know How To Feed Your Baby
There are important things to know when it comes to feeding your baby. Not all of them are inherent. One key thing to know is that you need to keep baby awake and engaged while eating. A baby who naps during a feeding will have a harder time sleeping at nap time (think of yourself if you take a nap at the wrong time–how does that impact your night sleep?). You also want to make sure that you accept and address growth spurts. Growth spurts are normal and are part of a baby’s growth–a HUGE part. They are not signs that anything will go wrong and your baby will go back to “normal” once the growth spurt is over.
- Nursing A Newborn: Keep Baby Awake!
- Sleepy Newborns: Work for 10 Minutes
- Feeding a Newborn: How Long Is a Feed?
- Feed Baby When Hungry
- Growth Spurts
These five things to know can help you to have success with your newborn. Keep them in mind and you will fare well!
Valerie is the mother to four and blogs at babywisemom.com
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