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I was very, very honored with our pediatrician’s office asked me to write up both a newborn sleep guide as well as one for infants. I’ve previously blogged about the newborn sleep guide and you can read it here! Today I wanted to share the infant version 🙂 My goal in this guide was to give parents a simple, straight forward way to help establish good sleep habits for their babies. Of course I always recommend Babywise
to everyone I meet, but sometimes people are more likely to read a short hand out from their pediatrician than they are an entire book recommended to them by a stranger!
The following suggestions
will help your baby establish good sleep habits. Most babies who follow these
guidelines begin sleeping solid for 7-8 hours a night at around 8-12 weeks old.
The ideal age to begin these techniques is at 2-3 weeks old but they are
effective even when started with older infants. The older the child is when
starting, the longer it may take to see results.
· Establish a Time to Begin the Day: Each
day for your baby needs to begin at the same time. If your baby wakes prior to
this time you feed, put back to bed, then re-wake them at your start time and
feed again. If your baby is still asleep at this time, you wake them to start
the day. The rest of the day flows from your start time each morning so it is
crucial in establishing routine for your baby!
· Create a Schedule: At 2 weeks old most babies need to be eating every 2.5 – 3 hours. Once
you establish a start time for your day you can create a schedule from there.
For example if your baby starts the day at 7 am then you would feed again at
9:30 if you are doing a 2.5 hour schedule or at 10:00 if you are doing a 3 hour
one. Your schedule is a 30 minute window. It’s totally fine to feed the baby 15
min early or to allow them to sleep an extra 15 min after the feeding time too.
· Focus on Full Feedings: Most newborns stop being as sleepy during feedings
once they reach a few weeks old, but continue to focus on making sure your baby
has a full feeding each time. A full belly allows for a good sleeping baby! You
want to make sure your baby stays awake the entire feeding time. Do whatever it takes to keep them awake (tickle feet, cool wash cloth, skin to skin, etc)
· Feed if Hungry:
Although you have a schedule in place, if you baby seems hungry and it’s not
yet time to eat then feed them! Never ignore a hungry baby! Depending on when
you have to feed you can adjust the schedule accordingly for the rest of that
day. While you always want to feed a
hungry baby you also want to look for the reason WHY the baby may have been
hungry before the next scheduled feeding time. Did baby fall asleep during last
feeding? Is is a growth spurt? Is your supply lower? Try to find out the reason
behind the hunger and work on fixing the issue to avoid more frequent feedings
becoming the “norm” which creates a cycle of “snacking” and limits the ability
for solid sleep.
· Eat-Wake-Sleep Cycle: As soon as you get your baby up from sleeping, you feed
them. After the baby finishes eating then you want to make sure to have some
awake time with them. Tummy time, diaper changing, cuddling and cooing: all of
these are fun things to do during that awake time!
· Know Awake Time Lengths: Babies cannot handle staying awake for very long
periods of time. A young infant typically will be awake for a total of an hour
or less at a time. And that includes the length of time it takes for them to
eat! Let’s say your baby gets up for the day at 7:00, this means it will be
time for them to go down for nap around 7:45 am! As you learn your baby you
will learn how long of an awake time they can handle and the older they get,
the longer they will be able to stay awake.
· Watch for Sleep Cues: Every baby has a different way of showing that they
are tired. Rubbing eyes, yawning, getting fussy or even becoming stiff. Watch
for these cues and when you notice them happening put your baby to sleep
immediately. Then the next awake time aim to have them going to sleep sooner. Once
a baby shows sleep cues it often indicates that they have already been awake
for too long.
· Avoid Overstimulation: The most common reason that babies struggle to sleep
is that they are over-stimulated. If your baby has a hard time falling asleep
at the beginning of their nap then it means they were awake for too long prior
to the nap. Cut their awake time shorter and it should help them go to sleep
· Establish a Good Sleep Ritual: Try to make sure that wherever your baby sleeps that
it is a dark room, with dark curtains and a white noise maker (a box fan is a
great, inexpensive option!). Having a routine for sleep times allows your baby
to understand when it’s time to go to sleep. A great routine is to sing a song
with your baby and swaddle the baby for sleep. Always have your baby sleep in a
crib or basinet in a room away from the noises of the rest of the house.
· Put to Bed Awake: A big step in helping your baby sleep is allowing them to learn to
self-soothe. You want to lay the baby down for naps drowsy but still awake.
This allows them to fall asleep on their own without your help.
· Remain Consistent: The more consistent you can be with sleep location, sleep times, and
eating times the easier it is for the baby to learn to sleep. We all thrive on
routine and babies are no different. Staying at home as much as possible allows
your baby to adapt to the routine you have put in place. Even when it gets hard
or frustrating, stay consistent! It will pay off!
· Comfort for Early Waking: If your baby wakes early from their nap, comfort
them! It’s common for young babies to need help transitioning into a deeper
sleep. A common misstep parents make is hearing their baby cry and assuming it
means that nap time is over. The baby is most likely just transitioning into
that deep sleep and may need some help to make it happen. This is a wonderful article about the newborn sleep hierarchy on the Chronicles of a Babywise Mom website. This article goes into detail on how to handle
early waking with babies at various ages.
· Crying is Okay:
It’s okay for your baby to cry a little when first going down to sleep or even
when waking mid-nap. Letting them fuss for a few minutes (up to 15-20 min if
you are comfortable with that) gives them a chance to soothe themselves and put
themselves back to sleep on their own. It allows them to get to that deeper
sleep sooner and without help.
· Know the Wonder Weeks: Wonder weeks are certain times in your babies life
where they go through mental and developmental leaps. There is a wonderful app
to help you recognize when these times are occurring for your baby. During
wonder weeks it’s common for sleep disruptions to occur and knowing when they
are happening can help prepare you for them as well as help you to cope during
· Cluster Feed:
Babies are often fussier in the evenings and it’s also a time when most nursing
mothers see a dip in their supply. When you establish your schedule it’s wise
to put less time in-between feedings in the evenings. For example, if you are
doing a 3 hour schedule you may want to feed your baby at 4:00 in the afternoon
but then feed again at 6:00 in the evening rather than waiting the full three
hours at 7:00. By doing a few feedings closer together in the evening time you
are also helping your baby “tank up” which can help them sleep through the
· Establish Bedtime Ritual: Just as you want to have a sleep routine for each nap
and nighttime sleep, you also want a specific bedtime routine to help your baby
learn that it’s time to sleep for the night. Have a bath, read a story, say
prayers, etc. When you set up your schedule your baby’s bedtime feeding should
be somewhere between 6:00-8:00 PM.
· Last Feeding then Straight to Sleep: During the day you want to keep the eat-awake-sleep
cycle but when it comes to the last feeding of the day it’s common to do the
reverse. Wake your baby from their last nap and then do a little awake time
with them. This is when you do your bath and other bedtime rituals. Once the
baby is all ready for bed, then do their feeding. When they finish this feeding
put them straight to bed (hopefully already asleep!).
· Dream Feed:
A dream feed is an extra feeding you schedule for your baby after they are
already asleep. You want to do this feeding before midnight and the goal is to
keep your baby asleep while you feed them. Put the baby straight back to bed
following this feeding and have as little disruptions as possible. Keep the
lights low and speak in whispers, etc.
· Don’t Wake to Eat at Night: During the day you want to wake your baby when it’s
time to eat. However, after the dream feed you just cross your fingers and go
to sleep! When your baby wakes in the night, feed them. Again keeping lights
low and doing your best to keep them in a sleep-like state. If you are nursing
and are worried about your supply you can set an alarm to wake your baby up if
they haven’t woken you up yet. Typically nursing mothers set alarms and wake
the baby in the night to eat 4 hours after the last feeding at least until milk
supply is well established.
· Start as you Mean to Go On: The early days of sleep training can be hard, but
stay focused on your long-term goals. Think about your goals and make steps to
help those goals become a reality. Sleep training is a parent directed
technique. You, as the parent, decide when your baby eats and sleeps. Not only
will your baby benefit from sleep but you will as well!
· Relax: Being
a new parent is a learning experience. Babies are all different and it takes
time to learn your baby and understand all of their specific, unique needs.
Sleep training can be difficult at times. It’s great to have a good friend to
talk things through with and it’s helpful to have books, blogs, and even social
media groups to use as resources. You’re not alone in this and it will get
easier! Soon you will see all the great benefits of having a baby who sleeps
through the night!!!
1. On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the GIFT of Nighttime Sleep
By: Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam
2. The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems: Sleeping, Feeding, and Behavior–Beyond the Basics from Infancy Through Toddlerhood
By: Tracy Hogg