I know you’ve been waiting on it…and here it finally is! I’m so thankful that I have the type of husband who is not only willing to write these blog entries but wants to.
Our children and beyond blessed and I love thinking about us all sitting around as adults retelling their birth stories together!
Daddy’s Story (From Gas to Glory)
I have said it before, and I will say it again, I am not as good a writer as my wife so bears with me.
Have you ever eaten fast food or Mexican and had really bad gas? The kind that hurts so badly but you are in the car with five of your friends (not that I have 5 friends) and you have to hold it in?
Well, apparently that is similar to contraction pain. Don’t get me wrong, I definitely don’t
think that it’s even close, but Emily on the other hand must.
Starting around Thanksgiving, ever so often, Emily would call me in the bedroom and say, “I think I am in labor.” I would ask her how it felt and she would say that she wasn’t sure if it was gas or a
contractions. Imagine how confusing this was. I just kept telling her, “if I smell something I’ll let you know.”
Well on December 6th I was on my way home for lunch when Em called me and told me she might be in labor.
Surprise, surprise she was uncertain if it was gas or labor pain. I did not get excited because I figured it was gas again.
Emily was on her way home as well, so when she got there we talked about it more. As time progressed it was apparent that she was in actual labor.
The funny part was how long she was unsure. I would look at her going through a contraction and I would think, “I have had gas but not like that.”
Ok, I am sure you are over hearing about gas so we will move on, gas free.
When Emily told me it was for sure labor,
She was working at a prison a few hours away and we needed to let her know asap so she could head home. I called the prison (no cell phones are allowed in) and asked for her.
I was going to talk to her a little about it and let her know that Em was pretty sure she was in labor, but when she picked up the phone and I said: “ We think Emily may be in labor but….”
And that’s all I got out before she said ok while I was mid-sentence and hung up. I
assumed she was on her way.
Deuce ( I call Em’s mom Deuce, it stands for second mom) has a history of interesting travel to events of Emily’s and mine, she got pulled over on the way to our wedding, and maxed out her Honda’s speedometer on the way to Kye’s birth.
Thankfully this trip was uneventful and she made it in plenty of time with no incidents.
This birthing process was awesome in most ways. Emily did way better at home.
Relaxed great, was more prepared, and was just overall
was so much different with Kye there.
We had to focus on her labor but at the same time focus on Kye’s needs. We talked to Jordan and made sure he was ready to go. We put Kye down for a nap and then we kinda waited.
The part that was most similar to the first time, was trying to decide when to leave for the hospital. I am not sure how much it is talked about in the blog world but it is an interesting thing to me.
I compare it to one of The Price Is Right games.
The music plays and the arrow moves higher and higher until you say stop. You are trying to get as close to the price of the car without going over. You want to labor at home as long as possible but you definitely don’t want to go over.
It is a strange, anxious feeling to me. I know Emily gets tired of me saying, “You think we should leave?” I keep asking over and over again.
I am a smart guy, well a really smart guy, but I am not about to deliver a baby. (And yes, I was kidding about the smart part.)
Well, we finally left. Thank the Lord above. Yes, literally thank the Lord above.
I know Em wants to stay home as long as possible but the moment she says, “ok its time,” a large weight is lifted of my shoulders.
I feel even more relief when we get into the room at the hospital.
Notice I did not say when we get to the hospital. When you first get there you pre-register for the
entire thing and it’s so pointless.
It is comparable to when you call
Yea, then they answer the phone and say “telephone number please.” EHHHHH, that drives me
I always ask, “so why did I spend 5 min keying in all my info???”
I also had to listen to Emily talk to me about the two nurses like they were not
She was so funny. She kept saying, “they think I am stupid
There were only three bad elements
First, The IV situation. I am not sure why it is so difficult to give Em an IV. She has small veins I guess but, wow, it is not easy.
Although Emily hates this more than anything else, she did pretty
I never have understood the fear of needles. I understand the fear of pain but just not specific items that cause the pain.
Emily does so well with the contraction pain but the needles bother her. Once we got the IV out of the way, things became a little easier.
First thing, cover up the mirror!
The second tough thing was the baby being turned. Sometimes people have experiences that can affect them on a different level than others.
Emily was turned the wrong way at birth and they had to turn her over with forceps. Long
story her head was cut and affect some nerves and she can’t smell.
When they told Emily that the baby was turned she lost it.
Even when they said the baby was just turned on her side, not all the way, Em didn’t even hear that. All she heard was, “the baby is turned.”
The fears about her own birth had spilled over into her child’s birth.
I felt so bad that this was happening but there was nothing I could do.
Now, when I say she “lost it,” I mean by Emily’s definition of “lost it.” She wasn’t yelling and
I tried to comfort her as much as possible but she wasn’t having it. The amazing thing was that during all that she turned over and followed Teresa’s instructions like a pro.
She turned the baby over in like 15 min.
I was so proud of her for being able to do it, even when her mind was focusing on her nightmare.
The third, and last tough
The exception to the rule is messing with my family. Last birth one of the nurses was super mean to Em and I got upset.
This time, though not intentional, the midwife really upset me. Let me say that I do not
know the circumstances, and I have no idea what happened.
When it took Teresa so long to get to the hospital I was very mad. I hate seeing my wife in pain. I know that it is part of the process, but it still bothers me.
I always wish I could take the pain on myself. The fact that Emily was ready to start pushing for over an hour and Teresa had not shown up yet, let say I
The most difficult part was not showing my emotion to Emily.
The last thing she needed was to see me
I mouthed to (nurse) several times “where is she?” I just kept telling Em she was almost there. Several times I stepped out into the nurses’ station and asked where she was.
They would say she is on the way. I told them, “that is what you said an hour ago, so
someone please get her here now.” I tried to be nice but I was a little past trying to be nice for everyone when my wife was ready to push.
Finally, Teresa got there. I was very tempted to say
I do want to say that she was very good at her job. She was great with Em and was a godsend during the birth. I only wish she could have arrived a little earlier. Then again, you don’t always
Now that we are past the negative, let’s get started with all the amazingly great things that happened. First of all, I did not have to hold the stupid I fan. Ok, just kidding (well kinda). I truly feel that this experience went great.
Emily was unbelievable. People do not realize the strength, physically
and mentally, that God has put in them.
When this process began with the second child, Emily voiced to me that she was nervous about labor this time around.
She said that people just expected her to do well this time where with Kye’s delivery no one believed she’d be able to do it naturally.
Honestly, I thought she would do great and never for a second doubted her. I knew she would do even better this time with the relaxation and the laboring at home.
The surprising thing to me was
Like I said earlier I am not a doctor but man, the difference was amazing. By the third or fourth
This brings us to the actual birth. I felt way more comfortable with Autumn there taking pictures than I did the first time.
I tried to just let her do her thing and not pay too much attention.
I still did not want to see what was going on “down there” so I stayed by Em’s head. I gave her ice
The great thing was that this time was I felt more like a coach than an onlooker.
Emily did a great job listening to me and, having gone through it before, I knew some key
phrases to say (and what not to say) to keep her motivated and on the right track.
Everything just seemed smoother. There were a few bumps in the road but the first time around the whole thing seemed like a bump in the road.
One thing I did differently this time was I did end up looking at the “situation”
a lot more. I still did not have a direct line of vision so that was good.
The reason I ended up looking was to be able to relay info to Emily.
I know how she ticks and the encouragement she needs. I would tell her that when a push was great and when I could see the head.
I also told her that Teresa needed to cut her a little because she really did need it.
I basically could let her know that all the pushing was working, that she was doing everything right and it was progressing
I am sure it is difficult to lay there, putting in so much effort, to not be able to see the results. It probably seems like pushing against
I think that me relaying that to Emily really made a difference in the pushing process and helped speed it along.
Now for the main event. I thought that the baby was a girl the entire time, and just like with Kye, I was right.
I was so excited to see. I thought that because it was baby number two that it would be great, but not on the same level that the first baby was
Boy was I wrong. I coached Emily a lot more and when I could see the head coming out I just went into this weird coaching mode.
I wanted to see and hold my child.
When Brittlynn came out I was amazed. Not that I was right about the sex, duh.
I was amazed by how beautiful she was. I was not expecting it.
Her skin was so pretty. She had gorgeous hair.
I immediately began to cry. Yes, cry.
Regardless of my large stature and am a bit of a softy.
When it comes to my family my heart just wells up with pride.
I am so lucky to have a wonderful wife, awesome son, and at that moment I was staring at another part of my family and of me.
I know that I will have disappointments with my children one day. I know at some point I will let them down as well.
Anytime I get frustrated with one of them I hope I can remember these moments in life.
How proud I was, how I got to hold
They put her on Emily’s stomach to let the cord stop pulsing then I cut it.
I was just ready to get it over with so I could hold her, but I was more calm with it and it seemed tougher than Kye’s did (probably because the blood was all gone from it?) and I kinda had to saw through it.
The nurses cleaned her off, and I was hovering over them like a vulture. When she was done cleaning, I snatched her up and cherished that time I had.
I remember how special it was with Kye. I wanted to have it again with Brittlynn.
With Brittlynn I found myself thinking about all the moments we would share in the future. I thought about Kye and how I hope he will protect her in moments that I can’t. How she will grow up and marry some undeserving man.
How clean my shotgun with
Cutting the cord
First time seeing Daddy
Finally, Emily got to nurse Brittlynn. When she was done we brought in Kye.
Another moment I will never forget.
The raw love and wonderment in his eyes
He was so sweet. I love when he calls her his baby.
After the introduction, I went to get the family to come in. This was also a lot smoother than the first time around.
The flow was better and I will cherish the moments of witnessing their joy.
There are very few moments in life that are all around great for everyone. It is nice to be a
No one is fake or trying to find a tactical way to say something. Everyone just reacts naturally to the wonderful moment.
The tears of joy, the laughter, my father who raised me so tough (which I am thankful for) just melting as he held his new granddaughter. These moments are what makes life so incredible.
When I think analogy it is usually football related. The two experiences of childbirth were just like the two national championships I played in.
The first one, both child and championship, went by so quickly. I was very nervous and did
not know what to expect. Because of the uncertainty of what was going to happen, just winning the game or in this
Everything went so fast that I didn’t appreciate all the things that make it so special.
I was so much more relaxed the second time around.
I appreciated the little moments of both that championship game and of Brittlynn’s birth.
I appreciate the small moments that Emily and I shared together.
The reason I was able to relax more and just soak it in this time was because of my amazing wife.
I have so much confidence in her and her ability that I could relax and know that she was going to do great.
My only moment of worry was the baby turning, and of
I am so glad that I never have to experience a screaming wife, who says nasty things during the
Or one who is so doped up on drugs that she isn’t herself or doesn’t know what’s going on. I get to experience a wife who handles it all like a bad case of GAS. And that is glorious!
I would like to say thank you to all those who have helped in this process.
Those that came to visit in the hospital, it means so much and when you come up there it really shows us how much you love us and care about our children.
Those who sent food, you know I am always hungry and all the food was terrific.
It sounds kinda silly but getting food makes things so much easier.
To our families, thank you so much. Jordan watching Kye, Casey
Mom who is always helpful goes above and beyond. Deuce, thank you for helping as well.
I would thank my dad but he never reads this so he won’t ever know I thanked him here.
Also thank you to all of Em’s friends who continue to shower her with their love, help, cards, and support. We are so grateful to you all and so blessed to have two amazing children!