38 Week OBGYN Visit

First, I want to say a HUGE HUGE HUGE thank you to EVERYONE who has prayed for our family and specifically for Mr. Rusty! He called yesterday and the pathology report was finished and: NO CANCER! Praise the Lord! We are all over the moon thankful and excited and just so relieved. Honestly, I think majority of our family was super sure it was cancer. So much so that the news that it’s not cancer is actually taking awhile to set in! Truly the power of prayer is an amazing thing 🙂

Today is/was the day that Zach and I both predicted our baby would be born. I made my appointment for this morning specifically for the reason that this same appointment put me into labor with Kye! Obviously, since I’m writing this, I’m NOT in labor 😉

Appointment went great! I’ve been feeling SUPER good so I actually didn’t have any questions at all for Stacy. She did the heartbeat first and it was in the 150s! This baby has rarely been that high! Both Kye and Britt were lower than that at these same appointments. Then she checked me and I was really expecting some progress. I will discuss more on Friday (if I’m still pregnant!) but I feel like the baby is MUCH lower. I’m more comfortable. I can breathe better, bend better, and wear a bra all day without being uncomfortable!

When she did the check she said I’m a good 3 cm dilated. Last week I was 2-3 cm and she said if someone else checked me that they would have likely said I was a 2. I know for SURE I’m def the 3 b/c the check didn’t hurt at all and it was pretty painful last week. She said my cervix still feels thick (boo) and that she’d say it’s at 60%. Last week it was 70% and I asked how the heck it’s possible for it to get thicker?!?! She said it’s probably just the way the baby is or something that made it feel thicker this morning. She also said the baby is for sure at a -2 station. So no lower than last week, but I also think last week she was being generous with the -2 station and that this week it’s a legit -2.

Just to make a condensed version…my stats for this week were: 3 cm dilated, 60% effaced, -2 station.

At this appointment with Kye I left VERY upset because I hadn’t made any further progress and was still 1 cm dilated, 90% effaced, and -1 station. I ended up getting home and venting in this blog post and then my water broke within minutes after posting it! I had him that day!

At this appointment with Britt I was 3 cm dilated, 80% effaced, and -1 station. So I was a good bit further along than I am today and I went an entire week before having her. I’m kinda starting to think this may be my first 40 week baby! He or she is def not as “ready” as early as his or her siblings were!

However, at both of these appointments with past babies I did not get my membranes swept. Today though I did! I couldn’t actually remember what membrane sweeping actually is? I had to google it after I left the office haha. Basically it’s when the dr or midwife puts her finger into the cervix and uses it to gently separate the bag of water from the side of the uterus near the cervix. It wasn’t too painful at all and from what I’ve read if it’s going to help speed up labor then it’ll be within 24-48 hours. Even if it doesn’t speed it up though, it is supposed to help make labor easier when the time comes so that’s a benefit either way!

We did talk about the fact that Stacy is having her baby on my due date. So I made my appointment next week for Wed again to see her one last time. If I go into labor between now and then I’m good to have her deliver…if I go after next Wed? No Stacy. She knows I don’t want to be induced but did mention it to me just in case I wanted it. I told her I will be sad not to have her there, but I ain’t inducing. And she agreed…I mean why would I when things have gone so well naturally both times prior?

I did not bawl my head off or even feel upset when I left the appointment. While my pregnancy has been JUST like mine with Kye’s…the ending of it is more like Britt’s. While I’m totally down to try some natural induction tricks…I’m not going to get worked up over it or get my hopes up or have some kind of expectation. Yes, I’m ready NOW but it is what it is and Leo will arrive when he or she is meant to arrive 🙂

I left the appointment and got a massage and am starting tricks now…any tips to help get things going?!?!?! Anything that worked for you?!?!

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Emily Parker

Hey Y’all, I’m Emily! I’m a stay at home mom and consider parenting to be my passion. Disney is my happiest place and I love making memories as a family together. I’m a big believer in transparency and share all of my real-life moments as a mother of four.

My work has been featured on Love What Matters, Today Parenting and Babywise.Life. I’m also honored to be a member of the Babywise Friendly Blog Network.

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  1. Laurel
    July 24, 2014 / 1:16 am

    I did not try this myself but know somebody that got their labor started by pumping! Started contractions and had the baby the next day!(I would definatly read the pros and cons first and details on line because I haven't read about it!!:)

  2. forddygirl
    July 24, 2014 / 1:43 am

    nipple stimulation will for sure cause it, or so i've been told 🙂

  3. brittany
    July 24, 2014 / 1:58 am

    A warm bath worked for my mom!

  4. ChelleyN
    July 24, 2014 / 2:37 am

    Praise God that Mr. Rusty got good news!!! I know your family is so relieved. I don't have any tips … Both of mine had to be evicted and when we started the inductions I was less dialated and effaced than you are now (and Brenson was 4 days overdue, but the doc could tell he was getting too big). I've been praying for a speedy delivery and great experience for you all!

  5. Elizabeth
    July 24, 2014 / 3:43 am

    Raw pineapple helped both my boys come. It also worked for some of my friends, too.

  6. Elizabeth
    July 24, 2014 / 3:45 am

    Other than eating pineapple, I walked a lot. My water broke 3 hours before my oldest was supposed to be induced!

  7. Betsy
    July 24, 2014 / 1:02 pm

    pumping! and my midwife suggested to walk up and down stairs with your legs spread apart….didn't work for me, I went to 42 weeks this time around. I keep waiting for a baby post from you…sending you good thoughts!!

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38 Week OBGYN Visit

This morning I had my 38 week check-up. Tomorrow I’m officially 39 weeks, but I wanted to wait this long to get checked again as 1) I didn’t want to hear “no change” 2) I was hoping she’d scrape my membranes and 3) Getting checked sent me into labor with Kye so I’d rather go into labor close to a weekend instead of at the beginning of the week!

Since poor Kye was stuck going with me to the dr Monday when I was sick and going to his dr Tuesday for his bronchitis check…I didn’t want him to have to go through another dr visit this week. Especially with her checking me. Having him in the room would not be helpful! Since Colt had school this morning I met Mrs. Charlotte and Payton and she took the kids to Chick-Fil-A to eat and play during my appointment.

I started having some contractions while in the waiting room which made me semi-nervous b/c I didn’t want to go into labor while at the dr and have them make me go to the hospital or something! Once I met with Teresa we listened to the heartbeat (141) and I got myself ready for her intense checking methods. She doesn’t play games when she checks you and last week I wasn’t prepared for it at all. This time as soon as the nurse said to undress I put my ankles together and knees apart and practiced relaxing even before Teresa came in the room! It was much less uncomfortable this time so I think I did a good job of relaxing 😉

I asked her about scraping my membranes before she did the check and she said she’d see how far along I am first. At this appointment last pregnancy I hadn’t had any changes (I was -1 station, 90% effaced, and 1 cm dilated). What’s so funny is this WHOLE pregnancy I thought I went into labor with Kye at exactly 39 weeks…turns out it was 1 day shy of 39 weeks which is exactly where I am at today! Kinda neat! At my appointment last week I was -2 station, 70% effaced and 2 cm dilated. This week I am currently -1 station, 80% effaced, and 3 cm dilated.

She said she wasn’t going to strip my membranes b/c she’s sure I’m going to go in labor on my own soon. Then she kinda through me for a loop. She talked about inducing me (um I’m SO against induction!)?!? And about epidurals and how I really should sign the forms (no thanks!)?!?! AND she said “you know you aren’t going to be allowed to push longer than 2 hours this time right?” Um…hold up. I thought she and I were on the same page?!?! The only thing I can think is that she just forgot my situation? At least I’m hoping that was the case! I was very careful about how I handled it and just said “I don’t want to be induced b/c I hope to stay at home as long as possible. I didn’t get an epidural last time and had a rough experience during delivery regarding not wanting to use drugs so this time I didn’t even sign the forms so hopefully that won’t be an issue. I’m so thankful Dr. Yarburough (sp?) okayed me pushing longer than 2 hours since Kye and I were doing fine and I’m so glad that this time around I have a signed birth plan that everyone has seen and okayed and that you will be there with me since you have been so supportive of everything.” I thought it was a pretty good answer? 🙂 She seemed to totally flip a switch and said “It’ll go great! I’m not a Nazi…we have to follow the rules but I’m not a stickler!” Again, maybe she really did just forget?

She signed my little white sheet and put on there for them to call her to come in even if she’s not on call. She said the only day she won’t be here is Saturday, so I told her that’s FOR SURE the day I’ll go into labor! Teresa is on call Monday and Thursday of next week and I have my next appointment with her on Wednesday morning. She seemed to think I’ll be seeing her before then though, we’ll see.

When I left I was pretty upset. I really, really want to feel support from the staff who helps deliver my baby and listening to her say that stuff freaked me out. Am I in for another battle zone the whole time? Thankfully I texted Robyn about it and she made a good point (which my pregnant fried brain didn’t even realize), I have a signed birth plan…they HAVE to follow it right?!?! I realized then that I don’t have an actual copy of the signed birth plan. So I called back up to the dr and asked them if there is one on my file and they said yes. I told them that I have print-outs from my computer but that I should probably have copies of the signed one in case there’s any issues. The girl said I wouldn’t need the copies since they can pull it up on my chart. I felt a little better but then Robyn told me that they lost her epidural forms and if she hadn’t had a copy of them with her that they wouldn’t have allowed her to get the epidural! You can NEVER be too prepared right?!?! So I called back and Kye and I drove up there. I now have a copy of the SIGNED birth plan in my possession, ready to go. I’m SO thankful to Robyn for thinking of that as it does help put my mind at ease some!

Zach also made a good point – if the baby and I are healthy and doing fine, I don’t think by law that they can force me to have a c-section even if I push for longer than 2 hours?!?! Just b/c the hospital has a policy in place doesn’t mean I’m forced to stick to it? I’m praying that we don’t even come CLOSE to reaching the 2 hour limit!!!

Emotionally I’m all over the place. I think I’m more nervous about delivery this time around than I was last time. Sometimes not knowing exactly what to expect is better than knowing! Plus practically NO ONE thought I’d be able to handle natural childbirth. It drove me nuts, but it also had me SO motivated. This time I’m expected to do awesome. Everyone assumes I’ll have no problems and be as tough as I was the first time. I don’t do as well with expectations…I prefer to achieve higher than the low expectations people have of me instead of having to live up to high ones. I feel pressure to handle it all like a champ and that’s scary for me. It’s also scary to know that, even though I’ve been through this before, there are STILL SO many unknowns.

On this day in my last pregnancy I was leaving for the hospital! My water had broken 3 hours prior to now after I’d had a MAJOR emotional meltdown. I was so, so, so beyond over being pregnant and just ready to face whatever I had to in order to get that baby out of me. I don’t feel the same way AT ALL this time. I’m scared. Not just of the delivery pains. Not just of the potential battles I’ll face again in the delivery room. Not just of the unknowns of when it’ll happen and how. But also of how much my life will be different once the baby is here. How Kye’s life will be different. If he’ll adjust okay. If nursing will go okay. If scheduling two kids will work out. Right now I’m straight up CHILLING. I’m done with everything that needs to be done and I’m just able to take it easy and relax. Having a baby means an end to all of that. I feel like I’m in denial that this is even happening.

Part of me feels urgent to get this show on the road (now would be wonderful timing since it’s before the weekend and Zach wouldn’t have to miss as much work plus we really need a baby here to get our Christmas card pictures done so we can order the cards and have them sent before Christmas!) but so much of me wants it to take awhile. I feel sad and weepy and I’m not even sure why exactly. I’m just kind of numb and feel totally unlike myself.

On the upside I took my last antibiotic this morning and my snot is very clear and I am feeling better! It’s probably why I’m feeling so emotional…I was too sick to be emotional before and now it’s all catching up with me 😉

Please continue to keep us in your prayers as the time is def. drawing near!!! (Whether I’m ready or not!)

Emily Parker

Hey Y’all, I’m Emily! I’m a stay at home mom and consider parenting to be my passion. Disney is my happiest place and I love making memories as a family together. I’m a big believer in transparency and share all of my real-life moments as a mother of four.

My work has been featured on Love What Matters, Today Parenting and Babywise.Life. I’m also honored to be a member of the Babywise Friendly Blog Network.

You can read more about our family on my About Me page. Also be sure to follow along with me on Instagram, Facebook and Pinterest!

Find me on: Web | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook


  1. Ashley Troutman
    December 1, 2011 / 6:53 pm

    I remember after I had Preston, I was talking with the nurse who helped deliver him.  I was telling her how I was glad I didn't have to push for 2 hours b/c I was relieved I didn't have to have a C-section.  She looked at me like I was crazy and asked why I said that.  I told her briefly about you.  She just told me it depends on the person, which isn't really an answer.  Not sure if they sometimes play favorites, or if it depends on the staff who is there at the time or what.  It certainly won't hurt to butter them all up with your treats though:)

  2. Amanda Phillips
    December 1, 2011 / 7:15 pm

    Yeah, I highly doubt they can MAKE you have a surgery if you and Blitzen are fine.  As long as he/she is making progress, I really don't think it will be forced.  Remind me to tell you the birth story of my sister in law AFTER you have Blitzen.  I bet Teresa just forgot who you were since she said that after you reminded her.  Don't stress or worry, I just know everything will go exactly how you want!! Plus, just tell any rude nurses that you have a very hormonal pregnant friend in Cairo that would love to take my frustrations out on their ears and ego!! LOL :o)

  3. Mega2300
    December 2, 2011 / 4:28 am

    I'm so excited to hear about how this all goes! And I'll be keeping you in my prayers! You are my hero going natural! I envy that! I never even questioned myself doing it bc I know I'm not that strong! I'm sure everything will go just fine!!! Btw.. I didn't technically vote on what I thought Blitzen was, but going off your high belly, I'd guess a girl… BUT a 141 heart rate screams boy to me! (all my girls were 155-165) I'm so anxious to find out!! Good luck!!!

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