I have always known that I someday wanted a big family. I have never understood parents who choose to only have one child. I often watch Kye play and feel bad that he is always having to play on his own. I have looked forward to giving him a sibling, to adding another member to our family. Never during my pregnancy with Brittlynn did I think adding a new baby would be this wonderful. Since Kye was my only child, I (naturally) worried about him a lot. How the new baby would affect him. Guilt over his constant attention having to be shared. I knew in the “big picture” the new baby would be a blessing for him, someone to play with someday, to confide in. But in the near future it would be a big adjustment, and I was nervous about how that adjustment would go.
While I admit that life with two surely isn’t easy, it IS wonderful. There is NOTHING better than seeing my two children love on each other. I really didn’t think Kye and Brittlynn would be able to interact so soon. I pictured them not really “playing” together until she was mobile. Possibly even longer. Kye simply adores his sister. Like seriously. I’m not exaggerating or leaving some detail out. He truly loves her in a way that I didn’t think he would so quickly.
His face lights up when he sees her. He talks sweet baby talk to her. He calls her all kinds of little pet names. He worries about her, constantly checking the monitor to see if she’s okay. He defends her. If I’m tickling her and I say “I’m gonna get that baby!” he gets very defensive and tells me I’m not allowed to eat her. He hugs on her, loves on her, and is always so gentle with her. He helps her constantly and is always letting me know what she needs or wants. He also shares with her. I told Zach early on that I never wanted to force Kye to share certain things. Some of his things should get to STAY his, ya know? Especially his “friends” (Monkey, Smryna, Pillow and Blanket). He has to share enough of his things (or at least he WILL have to share enough of them) with his siblings and I think each child deserves to have things that they get to keep 100% theirs! Well, Kye just keeps surprising me! He WANTS to share with her and offers up his stuff to her constantly, including his friends.
One of my favorite times of the day is the 3:00 hour. Brittlynn wakes up at 3:00 to nurse and Kye has been sleeping until 4ish so I get some alone time with Brittlynn. I soak her up and love on her and then she and I go in together to wake Kye up from his nap. I LOVE how happy he is to see her and he always wants us all to cuddle together in his bed. It’s so precious and it’s just one of those moments where you wish you could freeze time!
Kye wanted Britt to cuddle with his monkey
Playing with Jessie
He always puts his blanket on her and gets frustrated how quickly she kicks it away. He fixes it over and over again for her!
Sharing Kye’s Friends
Reading to her
Cuddling in Mommy’s bed
We also play “where’s Kye?” quite often in our bed…here’s a video
More reading to his sister
Here’s a video of Kye interacting with her
Whenever she fusses, Kye KNOWS how to cheer her up!
First time eating out back as a family of four.
Whenever we eat we put her in the bouncer and Kye talks to her, sings to her, and “gives her stuff she wants” constantly.
He ALWAYS wants Brittlynn to be part of the action, she’s invited into all of his forts
Whenever she plays with her Lamb Kye immediately goes to get his friends to play together.
I love her excited facial expressions
Here’s a video of them together
Kye also insists on helping us put her to bed and wake her up. He takes his job very seriously of turning on or off her fan and talking sweetly to her when we enter her room. Sometimes he will ask to get in the crib with her to cuddle and that’s fine by me! She loves the attention!
I know their relationship won’t always be this perfect. They will bicker. They will hurt each other. They will annoy the crap out of each other. My prayer is that those days will be short lived. That as adults they will rely on each other and keep their bond together strong. Someday Zach and I will be gone and it’s so important that they stay connected, to keep our family together. My prayer for them both is that they each marry someone that understands the importance of family and who gets along with their siblings. It takes work to join a family and I’m thankful that I am so close to the Parker’s. I truly do want the bond we all have to keep going for the next generation. I love thinking that someday they will have kids running around playing together. Kye is a wonderful big brother and it’s a role I know he’ll continue to fill with pride for the rest of his life!