Remaining Emily while Being Mommy.
Self care is so important and valuable as a mom and it’s important to find ways to stay connected to who you were before motherhood.
I take my role as a mom VERY seriously.
I am honored to be a mother.
I’m thankful to be able to stay at home with my children each day.
However, I also make a conscious effort to stay true to who I am as a person outside of that mothering role.
I have witnessed moms who completely lose themselves in their children.
It’s an easy thing to do!
Your children NEED you and they are constantly showering you with love, affection, praise, and attention.
It’d be so easy to let myself get lost in that. Become only about them and nothing about ME.
Why It’s Important for your KIDS to know YOU:
Staying true to our own identities is harder for moms than it is for dads.
While I am def not saying I want my kids to be listening to Alanis Morisette, John Mayer, or Blink 182 and watching The Bachelor with me…I do think there is a balance there and it’s important to find it.
Kye KNOWS Daddy loves football, specifically FSU and VSU.
He KNOWS that Daddy loves to go golfing as they go together all the time.
Does he know what my interests are? What
Someday I will be gone from this earth and I want my children to remember ME.
Not just for the
Here are some of the ways that I try to stay true to EMILY while still being a great Mommy:
1. I take care of my appearance:
I may LIVE in
I am dressed decently cute everyday Kye goes to school.
Even if the only place I’m going that day is to drop him off and pick him back up.
I get my hair highlighted and cut on a regular basis.
I watch my diet (thank you Advocare for allowing me to lose the baby weight and KEEP it off!).
I try to stay “on trend” with my clothing choices while still being
I take care of my skin, I use sunscreen, I take care
Yes, I have to get up about 30 minutes earlier than everyone else to make sure I have time to get myself ready to go, but I think it’s well worth it.
Taking care of my appearance is important to me for several reasons.
I like to look good for my husband (and I’m thankful he is SO supportive about the COST it takes to keep up my appearance!).
But I especially like to feel CONFIDENT about how I look.
I like to feel GOOD about myself and knowing I look my personal best
Yes, I am VERY confident about who I am on the inside too.
I know I’m a great mom, I strive to be a good wife, a good daughter of God, etc…but I always feel my personal best when I know I look my personal best 🙂
I think it’s important to teach my children to take care
You don’t have to be a super model or anything but our world DOES focus a lot on appearance and it’s important to look our best!
I HAVE to get AWAY sometimes!
Being home all day
Even vacations as a family do the trick!
Even just one or two nights away.
I am a very type-a personality and am always going going going.
I’ve got a million to-do lists I’m always working on and I always keep my plate pretty full with responsibilities.
Going away makes
I can BREATHE and not feel any pressure to be doing anything other than just relaxing and enjoying my husband, children, or even just being by myself.
I ALWAYS leave a vacation feeling totally refreshed and rejuvenated!
Disney is one of my happiest places 🙂
3. Maintaining Friendships:
I’m blessed to live in the same town as a LOT of
It’s nice to have people who are just MINE haha.
It sounds strange, but you know what I mean.
My friends are emotionally invested in me.
They want to know about EMILY. Not about Zach. Or even about the kids.
They are who I can vent to when I have a bad day.
Or share a crazy story with.
Or confess worries or personal struggles I may be dealing with.
I LOVE my core group of friends and am blessed to have so many of them who I can rely on!
Whenever we actually get to see each other “in real life” it’s always a great time!
It’s TOUGH to have girls nights but they are always worth the effort it takes.
It’s like a little mini-vacation!
Lots of laughter and fun and just a much-needed break once in a while to connect with women who truly “get me” and can help me stay true to myself!
I’m especially thankful to have some friendships that have spanned over a decade…these girls have ALWAYS known me and can help remind me of who I am at my core during times where I may feel lost!
Recent girl’s night out to Steak and Shake!
4. Investing in my Marriage:
Spending quality time with my husband is VITAL to taking care of myself.
We’re together all the time.
We see each other at our best and worst.
He works hard to provide for our family and I work hard at home all day with the kids.
Once they are in bed we are worn OUT.
Often the most “quality time” we get together is vegging out in front of the tv watching a show that we both enjoy.
But even those small connections are so important and are times I cherish.
I especially love the times when we happen to go to bed at the same time and will lay there holding hands talking and laughing together.
We also both focus on our marriage by traveling together, without the kids.
We take at least two vacations a year kid-free.
While I miss the children SO MUCH while we are gone, I KNOW that it’s important for THEM to know how much Zach and I value our marriage too!
When our children grow up and get families of their own we will be alone in this big house and I’m so thankful that we continually strive to better our bond so this house will never feel empty 🙂
A rare date night!
Enjoying one of our mommy/daddy getaways…in Italy!
5. Social Media:
What in the WORLD did moms do before social media???
Having children on schedules means I don’t get to leave the house often (I consider myself a hermit of sorts) so social media is where it’s at for me!
I just LOVE feeling connected to my friends.
I love how this world of social media brings us all together.
I have met so, so many wonderful people who have truly made ME a better person!
Along with social media comes blogging.
Blogging is my #1 hobby. I seriously
For me, more than ANYTHING else I do Blogging is the thing that keeps me most connected to who I am and allows me to express my truest self.
Writing is the best way I share my feelings and it is a way for me to better cope with anything I might be struggling with.
Something about venting it out in writing makes me better able to comprehend how I’m feeling and make sense of it all.
It makes ME a better person when I can write!
It also has allowed me to help SO many other moms out there and that fulfills me in such a deep way.
I truly believe that my blog is my mission work for the Lord.
I can reach people in a way that I’d never be able to normally.
I did not start blogging with that intention but I’m so thankful that this is the route my blog has taken through the years!
One of my closest friends, Robyn, who I met through blogging!
Visiting some of my close blog buddies!
Making all of my blog posts into blog books is one of my top priorities.
My purpose for blogging is to capture my children’s lives from MY point of view. MY voice. MY perspective.
While we may listen to kid songs in the car and only watch Disney movies at home.
While they may not grow up knowing all about EMILY, they will have my blog books to read.
And someday, when they are ready, they WILL know ME.
And even better they will know how I SEE them!
When I leave this world I know I will be passing on a true piece of myself to my next generation and that means the world to me 🙂
What are some of the ways you stay true to yourself???
What are your thoughts about my ways?