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The Value of a Weekly Marriage Check-In
I have an amazing group of close blogger friends who gifted me with several blog posts when Zach’s started on this new medical journey.
Today we are visiting Shepherd Center for our first appointment.
I’m filled with nerves and anxiety and can barely think straight while trying to pack and prepare and thought it’d be the perfect time to use one of the posts my sweet friends prepared for me!
Huge thank you to Stephanie from Giving it Grace for this awesome post about checking in once a week with your spouse.
This is something Zach and I recently started doing (we call it a “business meeting” and also do it on Sunday evenings) and it’s SO GREAT! I hope this post inspires others to start it as well!
My husband and I started doing a weekly check-in each Sunday shortly after we got married.
I’m all about being intentional and this seemed like a great way to ensure he and I were having purposeful conversations on the regular.
After a while of doing the weekly
Doing a weekly check-in with your spouse is a great way to get past the “How was your day? Good” conversation.
We’ve also found a weekly check-in is especially helpful if you have tiny humans in your house dominating the topic your conversations.
Having this chat every Sunday encourages my husband and
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- Here are the questions we ask and answer to each other each Sunday evening:
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Here are the questions we ask and answer to each other each Sunday evening:
What is your high and low from
I really try to listen to his answer on this question, as often things going on at his job are either his high or his low.
I find it worth noting if he’s stressed at work so that I can be mindful of that when he’s at home.
How did you feel loved this past week?
I love this question.
I am easily susceptible to putting standards on myself as a wife that mean nothing to my husband.
I’ve learned over the years that my husband does not feel loved by a fancy Pinterest dinner or the fact that I make the bed every morning (which apparently I just do for me as he could care less).
He almost always answers this question by saying he feels loved by how well I take care of our kids.
As taking care of the kids often takes up my entire day, it’s such a relief to know that really the only thing I can offer him right is the very thing that makes him feel loved during this season in our lives.
Anything I need to be called to repent of?
I also love this question, as it prevents me from being a nit-picky wife (most of the time!).
If Kyle does something during the week that rubs me the wrong way I make note of it to talk about at the weekly check-in.
If it’s still bothering me on Sunday night, I tell him about it.
If I forget come Sunday, clearly it wasn’t worth mentioning in the first place.
Obviously, if it’s something huge we address it at the moment, but most of the time it can wait.
I also like this question because Kyle knows it’s coming and his heart is in a good place to receive whatever I have to say.
And vice versa; when Kyle has things he wants to bring to my attention I’m expecting it and am willing to listen to him more so during this time than I would be in the heat of the moment.
How would you best feel pursued this week?
Some might find this question weird because it’s aimed at the bedroom (wink, wink!), but in this season of our lives (having little kids) we find it’s imperative to talk openly and often about the most sacred part of our marriage.
What does your upcoming week look like?
Walking through the upcoming week on the calendar together helps prevent scheduling
It also helps set expectations so we both know what’s going on and there’s no “you never told me about that” or “I didn’t realize you’d be home so late”, etc.
How can I support you logistically this week?
This question is probably unnecessary to most but we find it’s useful to be extra clear about what would be helpful to each of us so that we aren’t making assumptions.
How can I pray for you this week?
Another question I really try to listen to his answer on – and then actually pray for what he asks for.
As his friend, I really like to know what’s weighing on his heart or what he is rejoicing over and coming alongside him for either.
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