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Thursday, December 12, 2013

BFBN Day: Pave the Way for Learning First Time Obedience


Today is Babywise Friendly Blog Network day! Be sure to check out my post over on A Mother Far From Home :)  

First-time obedience is something I think is very important in raising my children and I appreciate Maureen's insight into how to achieve that goal! I needed this little kick in the booty to get working better with this with Britt now that she's two ;)



Pave the Way for Learning with First-Time Obedience
By Maureen Monfore, http://www.childwisechat.com

I have often talked about how our first-time obedience training can pave the way for important moral training. When our kids aren’t throwing tantrums or talking back to us with major attitude, they are open and receptive to learning the moral and ethical ways of the world.

But this applies to learning academic subjects as well. I recently ran across a quote, written from a teacher’s perspective, that says:

“If you fail to parent your children at home, then don’t expect me to work miracles with them in the classroom.”

I don’t intend to spark a debate about whose job it is to teach our children, but it is very clear to me that we can do a lot for our kids at home if we want them to learn and succeed in school. Sure, we can put them on the bus and not give a care about homework, but doing so only fails our children.
In On Becoming Preschoolwise and On Becoming Childwise, the Ezzos tell us that we shouldn’t just sit back and wait to ship our kids off to school at the appropriate age. There are important moral and behavioral lessons we should teach them while they are still home with us. First-time obedience and respect for authority stand at the center of these lessons.

Specifically, we should instill these important traits in our children before sending them off to school:
  •        Respect and obey all adults, especially those in authority
  •        Have empathy for other children (learn to share and understand how your actions affect others)
  •        Know that there’s a time for play and a time for quietly sitting still
  •        Work hard and always give it your best effort

What I love about the Babywise books is that they give us specific, practical ways of teaching these lessons. If you have a child who won’t sit still when told? Practice blanket time. Do it every day and he’ll learn.

Do you have a child who gives adults a nasty look when they tell him what to do? Nip that attitude in the bud. Tell him exactly why it’s important to treat all adults with respect. Then let him see you live it. Give up your seat to an elderly person on the bus. If you see an adult drop something, have your child pick it up and hand it to him. Have your child rake leaves for elderly neighbors. If he’s too young, do it together.

As for working hard and giving everything our best effort, start with a simple coloring page. If your child scribbles all over the page, crumple it up and throw it away. Keep doing it until you see that he’s working diligently and carefully. Then praise him for a job well done. This can also apply to cleaning his room, brushing his teeth, helping out with chores, and more. If he doesn’t give it his best effort, take a minute to teach him what you expect. Folding towels is the perfect opportunity for a little one to learn this. If you teach him, there’s no reason a 3-year-old can’t do a careful job.

Now, if your child is still throwing tantrums and screaming “No!” at you, this is your time to work on first-time obedience. It’s never too early to teach your child to give you eye contact and respond with “yes, mommy” (or some version thereof) when you call his name. You must command authority and continue to teach him to respect authority, no matter how little he may be. This very important work must be done before we can begin instilling in them the important traits they’ll need before heading off to school.


Maureen Monfore is a mother of two boys, a freelance writer, and the author of ChildwiseChat.com and the eBook, Live in Harmony with First-Time ObedienceA loyal follower of the teachings of Gary and Anne Marie Ezzo, she is passionate about teaching children to obey to pave the way for fun, love, learning, and essential moral development.

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