Monday, January 30, 2012

Week Five Summary

Brittlynn's fifth week of life was from January 3rd - January 9th. Here is what she was up to during this week (and it's a LOT):

Sleep: Whew. Week five was MEGA tough. I wanted to cry. I think I did cry. She just would not sleep during the day. Literally. Like the longest stretch she got of solid daytime sleep was 20 minutes. It wore me out! I knew the reason doing shh-pat wasn't working was that I wasn't doing it long enough. I'd "shh" and pat until she was asleep then leave. Hogg (in The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems) even says if you don't do it long enough the baby won't go into a deep sleep. Well sorry Hogg but I have a toddler to attend to and I can't be sitting by a crib for 40 minutes at a time!!!

I got pretty ticked at good 'ole Hogg on Jan 3rd and reached a breaking point during this week (yes, it happens to us ALL!). I said screw it and just let her cry. An entire nap. She literally cried for an hour straight. Don't get me wrong, I didn't enjoy the hour. I was miserable but I was too frustrated to go in and help her sleep since nothing I did seemed to work. Not the swing. Not holding her. Not the paci. (Speaking of the paci...we only give it to her when she's hungry but it's not quite time to eat or halfway through her nap when we've tried everything else first to get her to sleep. We never do it at start of nap or at night...she is a horrible paci girl b/c she sucks it so hard it leaves a mark on her face and she spits it out then screams!) Nothing. I spent the whole hour texting my two babywise bffs (thanks Laura and Kelly!!!) and they helped me feel better, feel less alone, and gave some great advice. After the hour she did fall asleep but, obviously, I'm not recommending you just let your 5 week old scream for 60 minutes. I felt HORRIBLE guilt for doing that but at the same time I know it's normal to get to that breaking point! The rest of the day I pretty much ran in there and cuddled her anytime she even whimpered ;)

After that day I totally abandoned the shhh-pat method. We still do all the beginning of nap things that Hogg recommends. I set the stage by singing "you are my sunshine" while I swaddle her then I hold her upright until she goes limp and put her down then leave. She usually will "buck" a good bit and do three cycles of fussing then getting quiet before she totally goes limp before I put her down.

I also realized, thanks to Laura and Kelly, that she was going through a wonder week. I hadn't ever heard of the wonder weeks but omg what a blessing to know about them now!!! You can see a breakdown chart of them HERE and you can learn about them in detail (as well as sign up to receive an email whenever your baby hits a wonder week) HERE. Basically a wonder week is a time frame when your baby is going through developmental milestones. It's actually based on their due date and it's so funny because both times she's hit one (I'm writing this during her week 8 wonder week) she's started it around Friday and she was due on a Friday ;) It is SO exact and right on. And it's a HUGE blessing because instead of getting mad at her, or at myself, or freaking out I realized it was just a wonder week and she'd be fine once we got through it. The developmental leap she was making was that she was starting to show interest in the world around her and she wanted to take it all in rather than spend her time sleeping. When we'd be holding her, trying to get her to sleep, she'd be wide-eyed and would move her head all over to look around. She also rolled over for the first time the next week and when that I happened I KNEW her issues during week 5 had been developmental for sure!!!

The best way to deal with the Wonder Weeks is to recognize them and get through them anyway you can. For me, it was letting her fuss in the beginning of nap unless or until she got REALLY worked up then I'd just hold her and love on her until she was very sleepy or even asleep then put her down. I'd do the same thing over and over again throughout her nap.

While it was a tough week, it was a HUGE breakthrough week...

Gas: THIS was the breakthrough!!! We were so frustrated with Britt's lack of sleep...then Zach came out of her room during one of her naps and told me she had been screaming then he walked in to help her and she lifted her legs and let out a HUGE fart then fell right to sleep. Gas issues can cause a baby pain and I thought maybe that was what was going on. We started to hardcore burp her whenever she took a break on the breast, in between breasts, after eating, throughout her awake time, right before sleep time, during naps, basically all day. It made a HUGE difference!

Ways that we help her to release gas (and yes, I researched ideas) include:
  • patting her in an upward motion on her left side with her on our shoulder
  • doing the same thing while having her in a sitting position on our lap
  • same thing but laying her on the boppy
  • varying the positions repeatedly as the movement helps to get the gas to move
  • pumping her legs, bending them and pressing them to her chest and holding it
  • pumping her legs without holding it but pressing them and releasing them back quickly
  • pushing her legs to her chest and moving them in a circular motion
  • moving her legs like she is riding a bicycle
A combination of all of these really makes a difference. We also started giving her mylicon at every feeding prior to her eating as I read it better helps to prevent the gas from happening to begin with. I couldn't BELIEVE the difference in our child. Not only with her sleep, but with her overall personality! To be honest...I didn't really like her very much. I loved her but I felt like she was ALWAYS crying and fussing and just unhappy. Until we started revolving our lives around getting that gas out of her system. Oh my goodness! Seriously, if she isn't eating or sleeping she is SMILING and COOING! It's precious and I totally missed out on that cuteness due to her being in constant gas pain! Feel guilty much?!?! Basically our sweet baby girl spent her first month of life in pain :(

The FIRST full day of us focusing on the gas...she had what I call her breakthrough day. She had her BEST sleep EVER for naps all day, I was even able to lay outside (yes, in early January I was laying out) for 15 min! And that night she slept from 11:30-5:30 which was AWESOME! SO proud of her and of Zach and I for figuring out that mystery gas!!!

Schedule: Her schedule was the same as Week Four.

Here are some more things she was up to this week:
  • I thought she had been done with the peeling skin, but her scalp started to peel this week and often looked like dandruff
  • The child grunts and moans constantly and reminds me of me!!! I am a bit of a moaner (especially during child birth...I get it from my Nana...and get ready because that means when I'm an old lady I'll be moaning nice and loud all through church services!) so she comes by it honest! Here is a video of her grunting when I pump her legs to release that gas. Here is another video of her making noises in her sleep.
  • I started to run our cool mist humidifier throughout all of her sleep periods and it REALLY helped her congestion (we even ordered her a hot pink one of her own!)
  • We took her to church for the first time! I skipped class that morning and fed her at home then she and I rushed to church. We were late, but only by 15 min which was better than Kye's first time at church ;) We tried to have her sleep in her car seat but she wasn't having it so Gramma got the special privilege of holding her the whole time!
  • Her awake times started getting longer, she would stay awake an hour to an hour and half each time (including feeding time) so it was WONDERFUL because I finally felt like we got to know her personality better
  • A couple times we've walked in to wake her up and have found her body totally moved in her bed. Like out of view of the video monitor. She'll still be swaddled but will be turned completely to the side?? (not on her side...she's still flat on her back) How is that possible???
  • Her nails are now hard enough to where it's easier to clip them with clippers than with my teeth
  • She lets out the CUTEST smile when she is falling into a deep sleep...precious!
Since she was awake longer, and she was so much happier...there are a LOT of pictures this week!!!
Lots of tummy time!
Britt and Sadie

She loves to be on her tummy

Here is a video of some of our sweet moments together, love those little sneezes!
No more cord!
Favorite activity is still bath time
Not only does she still have her hair...but it's becoming very crazy ;)


When Zach and I both looked at her on the video monitor we said she looks like Gary Busey!!!

Gary
Britt
Kye started back to school this week and I'm SO thankful for Mom, Zach and Mrs Charlotte. When I was pregnant I wrote them a long email talking about how important Brittlynn's schedule is and that is comes FIRST. Even before Kye going to school. I do not feel comfortable having Brittlynn nap in her car seat 6 times a week which is what she would have to do if I took him and picked him up every day. Once she gets on a four hour schedule it'll be easier because she should be able to make it to his school and home during her awake time so it won't mess up her naps, but right now it's just not possible. I asked them to please help me out and take Kye and pick him up for me as often as possible. My goal is to only have to pick him up once a week, twice if there is no other option. If it works out where no one can help me on a certain day then he'll have to miss school. That may sound crazy to some of you but I KNOW the schedule WORKS and it has to be top priority for our family during her first year of life. We have may have to make sacrifices but those sacrifices will benefit us all (yes, even Kye) in the long run!

I picked Kye up one day during this week and it was the first time doing that. My plan is on the days I have to pick him up to run an errand before going to get him. I pumped and fed her a bottle at ToysRUs so I could use some coupons that would expire. Man, I forgot how tough it is to go places with a new baby!!! She ate at 10:00 then would not stay in her car seat. So I ended up pushing the stroller and carrying her at the same time which made life difficult. She wouldn't sleep at all in it. She'd nod off when I was driving but when I stopped she'd wake back up and cry. Not good!!! I literally had like 15 minutes to do my actual shopping before we had to leave to get Kye.

changing diaper at ToysRUs
She did finally fall asleep so I left her to sleep in the car seat until she woke up then I swaddled her and put her back to bed (it's what we do whenever she falls asleep in the car seat...better to let her sleep than wake her!)

Here is a video of her with her playmat
Kye kept wanting to feed her the bottle that came with her cabbage patch doll
he was so serious about it
focusing on objects, her developmental leap this week!


being bossy probably
Kye is SO great with her, here's a video of him showing her all of her (tooooo) many stuffed animals (note to anyone who ever may buy her a gift, please no more stuffed animals! books are best!)


me and my babies!

The way her schedule worked out this week she had awake time from 7-730 so we were able to spend time as a family before Kye went to bed. I'm SO thankful I got some pictures of this! We all would sit in the hallway and read a bedtime story together. Yes, the hallway. When that baby shows the slightest sign of being tired I like to be mega close to her room ;) It was a wonderful little family time together and it makes me look forward to the many years to come. Of course, her schedule didn't stay that way very long and it'll be changing so much that they probably won't get to read stories together again before bed until she's much older!

yes, I was there too ;)
I realized I never got a picture of the stork bite on the back of her head...it's still there as you can see
Something I remember that I LOVED doing with Kye was checking the mail each day. It was nice to go outside together and, since he was a spring baby, the weather was so pretty. Around here lately the weather has been LIKE spring weather even though it's winter! Since Britt started staying awake longer I would typically take her out to check the mail after her 1:00 feeding while Kye was napping. We'd get some quality together time in reading through it on the back or front porch.

my girl
I LOVE how much more alert and happy she is...I wish I could take pictures of how precious she is while she nurses...but you can tell she's just as sweet right after!

action shot of that constant baby laughter
Postpartum Update: Zach and I officially started Weight Watchers. At our first weigh in I have 10 lb to lose...yes I gained three pounds over the holiday. It was an emotional week as I dealt with her nap issues and I found that taking a shower helped me to feel SO much better. More alive ;) I started to fall into a good routine...Zach and I watch shows together during her 8 feeding at night and have our nightly snack then I go to bed at 9:30 for a nap before her 10:30 dream feed. It is TOUGH to wake back up but somehow I get through it. My bleeding is still going on...so annoying...but light enough for a thin pad. My new bridesmaid dress arrived for the wedding and the 8 fit in the chest perfectly so I have some options which is good! I know with Kye even when I lost weight, I held on to the chubby junk until after I stopped nursing then I got my body back so we'll see how this goes.

I left Brittlynn for the first time for an entire day this week. I drove up for the day for Hallie's service. Zach kept her and Kye the whole day and it was REALLY good for us both. I got a needed break and he got to live a day in the life of mommy and see everything I go through. Often times he'll call me while both kids are napping and want to talk and he doesn't get it why I rush to get off the phone...it's because that brief alone time is SO rare and I want to enjoy it for MYSELF! I called him that day when both kids were asleep and it clicked with him why I'm always in a rush, because he wanted that alone time too!

While it was one of the toughest weeks yet, it was also one of the best thanks to ALL the many breakthroughs. I felt like I was starting to finally get to know Brittlynn better. It sounds horrible to say that I didn't really like her in the beginning but that gas made her such a grump and it's been a blessing to finally know the REAL Brittlynn and see her sweet, wonderful personality shine though. That smile makes EVERY hardship worth it!!!

4 comments:

Forddygirl said...

The Gary Busey comparison is HILARIOUS! I seriously cracked up looking at that! :-) Still am!!!
If it makes you feel better, i had pretty much the SAME EXACT experience w/ Mack. The first 5-6 weeks were bad. Honestly, worse than bad. I was miserable. I had several times that i just broke down bawling and then felt guilty for not liking him. Gas and reflux were his issues. Yeah, i felt like mother of the year too :-)
I thought he was just a grumpy baby, too, but it turns out that he's a sweetie, too! HA!
She's a doll, girl. Absolutely precious!

Crissymegow said...

she does TOTALLY look like him *only in the monitor though, hahaha
and don't feel weird about kye missing school b/c no one else can take him, i would totally do the same thing too! especially since it's at the beginning of the day, that would mess her (and everyone else) up for the REST of the day

I think it's so sweet how you always say "we" is Z really able to help that much, or are you just a sweet wife ;)

Stephanie said...

Justin was the only one who could ever get Jackson to burp.  He would stand while holding him and bounce up and down hard...feet never leaving the floor but very intentional on the bouncing.  I never could get that technique to work for me but Justin got him burped every time.  He was really good at calming him too.  I remember being able to get Jackson to sleep but Justin was better about getting him to STAY asleep.  Probably because of the gas/burping thing.  Sounds like things are really busy at your house.  Enjoy these moments!  They are gone too soon!!

MeganRay said...

You are so so so so blessed to have so much help from your family with Kye. From day 7 of my second one's life (after my hubs went back to work), her schedule has had to revolve around her older sister's schedule,  meaning she goes with me to drop her off at school at 9 and pick her up at 4. While preschool may be optional, third grade definitely isn't, and my parents are both busy, and 15 miles away.

In other news, though, Brittlynn is such a cutie!! Love your reading in the hallway pics :)

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